nobody does panic like chandler bing
#i would become a Bond villain just to get this renewed #look at Jack realizing his place in the narrative; look at Jack understanding his predestined role and thinking #i’ll be the best monster you’ve ever seen #UNTIL HE DOESN’T #BECAUSE IT IS POSSIBLE TO BE THAT GOOD!!!! IT IS POSSIBLE TO RISE ABOVE!!!!! #Jack at the trial was Jack trying on the mantle of Cain and realizing it doesn’t jive with him; realizing that he still has a heart #can’t numb it with ice can you?
Benedict and Martin reading a fic called ‘Coffee’. Shall I say MADE to read by Caitlin. @ TEH BFI screening.
Always with the Rory
Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.
That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?
The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.
this is literally so insanely fucking important fucking hell fuckity fuckkkkkk